Please respond to all three questions and then to two of your peers' responses. As always, keep your language and ideas academic in nature! Each student should have a total of five responses by the end of our lab period.
- How important is a first impression?
- How much can you really tell about a person based on first impressions? Is it accurate?
- Is it legitimate to use your first impression to make decisions about a person without knowing him/her?
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26 comments:
Your first impression is probably your most important. I believe this because you usually judge a person within the first few minutes of observing them. The information you get from observing someone is usually what you'll base your feelings on getting to know them. If they don't seem at first someone you'd have something in common with you might be less inclined to talk to that person. It's just human to judge and label everything and first impressions have big impact on how you might immediately judge someone or something.
Joseph Belotti
Your first impression can mean alot. If you make a bad first impression , the person that you made that bad first impression to will always look at you bad. I always try to make my first impression as well as possible , i dont like people to think of me in a negotive way. When going to a job interview or meeting a new teacher for the first time is when your suppose to make the best first impression you can possibly make.
-Andres Mojica
You cant tell to much from the first time meeting someone. Whatever that person seemed to be the first time you met them , they can be the complete opposite. In my opinion its not acurate. You cant determine how someone is based on the first time you met them. I wouldnt want anyone judging me in a negotive way based on the first impression i left them with. You should give someone more than the first time to know what that person is really about.
-Andres Mojica
You can usually get an idea of how someone acts and talks within the first couple minutes of meeting them. You can also tell if someone is more outgoing or reserved. This isn't always accurate though. The person could be in a bad mood, upset, or tired. It would be unrealistic to base your whole opinion on someone within the first time of meeting them. This is because there are so many things that effect human behavior including the enviroment your in and the weather. It makes it hard to truly get an accurate idea of someones person quickly.
Joseph Belotti
No, how can you talk about someone without knowing them right? Even though alot of people do anyway, but in my opinion you have to know the person a little bit, to even talk about he/she. I wouldnt talk about someone without knowing them, but then again im not the person to judge anyone weither i know them or not. For me to have a conversation about someone you have to know something about he/she for a fact and not what people feed your mind, so therefore it takes more than just the first impression to have a conversation about someone.
-Andres Mojica
First impression is an essential to everyone. In a business occasion, your furture boss or co-workers always distinguish you from the moment you walk in the building. As a personal experience, the minute I walked in the bulding in my first job, I was being monitor at all time. Since it was strictly professional, I had to dress nice, clean shave, postured fixed, and a positive attitude. I had to dress to impress, and also talk with confidence. On a social experience, there are many people who like you or dislike you on a first basis. They determine your personality, if your funny, or if your too serious, all based on your first impression.
You can tell whether a person is clean or tidy, funny or serious, or just plain boring, based on a first impression. Although first impression matter the most, it's only assumption based by the person judging. "You can't judge a book by its cover." This saying has been said many times throughout the years. I believe it can also be determined by people. In first day of my English class in college, we had to play a game called Two Truths and a Lie. I was asked to right two facts about myself, and a false statement. Let's just say my classmates were very wrong about me. You can only tell so much of what a person is, or feels based on first impression. I believe they are not accurate.
People tend to utilize there first impression to make inaccurate desicions about someone. I know I tend to judge many people in the past. I remember one day, where i judged my best friend back in the days of being stubborn and really mean to people. Obviously I was wrong because he became my best friend. For me to legitimately use my first impression would be a mistake to use. You have to get to know the person a lot more before anyone makes assumptions towards anyone.
I don't think first impressions are important. The reason why is because you might put up a show for a certain person or people and not show them the real you. First impressions can be akward and disturbing so you might be a little nervous because you don't want to mess anything up. I don't think we should put that much pressure in ourselves when we first meet someone, we should act natural and pretent they're one of your friends. It all depends on the person you want to impress, for example a new co-worker, you want to make them feel comfortable in their new enviroment and let them know they can count on you for help. If you're quiet and distant, you might give them the impression that you either dislike them or that you're rude.
I don't think it is legitimate to base your decisions about a person from the first impression. People could behave alot differently if they were simply in a different enviroment or in a better mood. Theres too much to a someones personality to base everything on the first time meeting them. They could act differently simply because they're not comfortable talking to new people or because they didn't have enough sleep one night. I don't think you could even get a legitimate idea of someones personality on the third, fourth, or fifth time seeing them.
Joseph Belotti
In regard to Joeys comment, I can agree with him 100%. Joey makes some really good statements on how to judge someone based on the first time you meet someone. Its true you can get an idea of someone within the first couple of minutes, but cant determine how they actually are based on just the first time meeting them. and yes, your first impression is the most important due to the fact alot of people thinks back to the first time they met you.
-Andres Mojica
In response to Brenda C.'s comment. I agree that you could just be manipulating your personality to appeal to certain people. But I don't think that makes first immpressions any less important. If anything I think that shows how important they are to people. It must be important if someone wants to go out of their way to seem more appealing.
I agree with Brenda. Most people shouldn't put effort into first impression. Most people are usually insecure, and like to impress people. Just being yourself should be enough for people to get the good side of you.
It is not legitimate to use your first impression to make decisions about a person without knowing him/her. Though you should keep in mind any negative vibe you received from their first impression. For example; If the person lied about their age when you first start talking and towards the end of the conversation they come clean; even though they told you the truth, they still lied so you should prepare yourself to hear more lies from them. I am not saying you should automatically label them as "liars" I'm just saying keep an eye on them and watch what you say when they're around unless they had a really good excuse for lying in the first place. I always say not to judge a book by it's cover, unless the cover has a quotation stating how boring the book is. My point is, get to know people before you start criticizing them.
Kleber brings up a really good point. You have to mold yourself according to your surroundings. I don't mean change yourself completely to impress someone but you should know how to act in certain occasions. For example what he said about job interviews. If you're applying to work for lets say a Circus, you can't be dressed professional because that won't attract them. They are not interested in seeing the smart side of you, they only care about your funny side and whether you can make people laugh or not.
I don't think there is much to tell about a person based on first impression. What if you only have twenty minutes to make a first impression? people can't learn about you in twenty minutes. Instead, they would try to figure you out based on what they saw and that's not fair. I don't believe you should be judged based on the first two minutes of a conversation you have with someone. Just because you were late for a meeting or an interview doesn't necessarily mean that you're always going to be late, perhaps you had an emergency and had to make a stop somewhere. People need to stop assuming they know someone based on a first impression.
I feel first impressions shouldn't be considered only because sometimes
first impressions aren't always correct. Most people who judge a person
shouldn't only because no one is perfect. So if a person is going to
judge another person they better be absolutely perfect themselves
because judge one another starts a lot of problems amongst different
people. No matter how old you are people contiuesly start rumors amongst
each other than more and more problems occur that's why first
impressions shouldn't ever be considered
No you really can't tell how a person is because of a first impression
because they are never really accurate. A person may dress very sudtive
but they may not be sexualy active at all. Sometimes a person just has
to sit down with another person and actually have a converstaion with
them they will probably see that the person is actually very different
from what they were going to judge them before even speaking to them. So
a person should really be very understanding and speak to someone before
they judge one another
No its not legitimate to judge a person do to first impressions only
because when you make a dicission about a person your basicly maken a
statement about them that is absoulty wrong. People need to brake down
the wall they have and learn to trust one another and what they say no
matter if they look one way or not. Time and trust are the best ways to
tell how a person can be. You never will know what you will find out
about the person.
so i have to disagree with everyone,sorry guys.I truely believe first impressions should ever be considered because well you dont know when you will meet a person. i understand where you are all coming from when you speak of being in a job enviroment or school, but what about outside those areas. most people will judge by how you look,and that how most first impressions are decided. most people can dress a certain way or act a certain way but only time and a conversation will truely show who that person is. if you make a decission about a person just because of there first impression than you may actully lose out from meeting a reallie great friends or potential segnificant other.
I feel that your first impression is important.There is alot you can tell about people during there first impression on you.Such as how mature or immature the person is.Even thoe you can some time you may think you know how somebody is based on thier first impression you got from them ,it may sometime be a cover up on how your first impression were on them.NO it is not ligeitimate too go on the person first impression if you dont know them.
Antonio smith
I feel that your first impression is important.There is alot you can tell about people during there first impression on you.Such as how mature or immature the person is.Even thoe some time may think you know how somebody is based on thier first impression you got from them ,it may sometime be a cover up on how your first impression were on them.NO it is not ligeitimate too go on the person first impression if you dont know them.
This one's for kristen. Perhaps you misunderstood what I wrote about first impressions so let me explain. My first sentenced said "I don't think first impressions are important." and that is basically what you said on your first comment so if anything you agree with me not disagree. I just felt like clearing that up because you said you disagree with everyone and I said the opposite of what Joey, Andres, and Kleber said.
I believe that first impression is one of the most important part of meeting someone. However it can also be very miss judging. How you present yourself in the very beginning is the way a person will view you. First impression is one way you can let someone know what type of character you have. The way you dress, speak and your body language show the type of individual you can be. When misrepresenting yourself in the beginning it can also stare a person that is interested in the wrong way.
First impression can sometimes be accurate depending on the circumstances. If a person portrays themselve to be something that they're not they will have to continue to live that lie until they can't anymore. It is up to that individual if they care to carry out any false misrepresentation. Far as being legitimate I believe in certain instances it's very important to take that first impression of a person. Brenda stated that she doesn't believe a person should be held accounted for if he or she is late for an interview that maybe and an emergency happen or they just stop somewhere. As a person doing the interviewing especially a person that owns the company you would automatically think that person is very unreliable, not really interested and just wasting their time; however that may not be the case, but going that extra mile and taking whatever measures that's needed to show you are reliable your first impression with a phone call will justify your character without meeting them face to face.
People who present themselves as immature loud and unruly will give me the impression that i do not want them around me at all.
First impression tells a lot about a person, it can be detrmined if you are accountable,responsible, reliable. How well you communitcate with others, and how you carry you carry yourself as a individual. First impressions are often based on the color of one's skin, clothing, religion.
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